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Many of us experience pain in our childhoods, and young people face trauma all over the world. How is it possible to recover? Do those abused always go on to hurt others? This incredible bestseller has overturned the way we view trauma, by showing how the extraordinary power of resilience can heal damaged lives. Renowned psychoanalyst Boris Cyrulnik has dealt with many young victims of distress and he relates stories of children who have been abused, orphaned, fought in wars and escaped genocide, yet who have not only survived, but grown in the face of adversity. By the way we deal with our memories and emotions, he shows, we can reshape our lives and transform pain into something stronger - just as a grain of sand in an oyster becomes a pearl. Resilience is not just about resisting; it is about learning to live. This life-changing book points the way towards hope and happiness.

"Cyrulink has healed people and countries." (The Times, London) Renowned French neuropsychiatrist and psychoanalyst Boris Cyrulnik's parents were deported to a concentration camp during the Second World War. They never returned. This early personal trauma at the age of five led Cyrulnik to his life's work helping individuals and countries come to terms with their pasts and forge ahead to create positive futures. It is his firm belief that trauma does not equal destiny-that, rather, we can find strength in the face of pain. Drawing on years of experience working around the globe with children who have been abused, orphaned, fought in wars and escaped genocide, Cyrulnik here tells many amazing and moving stories of individuals whose experiences prove that suffering, however appalling, can be the making of somebody rather than their destruction. This inspiring book teaches us that we can not only survive in the shadow of adversity-we can thrive.

"Love doesn't strike at random. This wonderful moment touches only those who are ready." Throughout our lives, we can reawaken the imprint of love that we thought was dormant. Those who have benefited from a secure attachment are the easiest to love, but some are more comfortable with an attachment that's calmer and less feverish than intense love, which can be a source of anxiety. Those who experienced an emotional desert in their childhood tend to believe they're not lovable because they've never been loved; when they are loved, they think they don't deserve it and that they'll be abandoned again. In this case it's difficult to form a bond of attachment. Love is sometimes scary and attachment can be imprisoning. Must we invent new lessons in love to rediscover the pleasure of loving?" - B. C. A major book, moving and profound. Boris Cyrulnik shows off his unique talent for putting what we feel into words."Love doesn't strike at random. This wonderful moment touches only those who are ready."

Las claves para pasar de ser un patito feo a un hermoso cisne, libre de traumas y conflictos emocionales.Los patitos feos es un referente imprescindible en el campo de la psicolog a moderna.Resiliencia: d cese de la resistencia que ofrece un cuerpo a la rotura por golpe o de la capacidad humana de asumir con flexibilidad situaciones l mite y sobreponerse a ellas.Tras superar una dif cil infancia marcada por la muerte de sus padres en un campo de concentraci n nazi y su posterior paso por distintos orfanatos y centros de acogida, Boris Cyrulnik adopt el concepto de «resiliencia y lo aplic al campo de la psicolog a infantil para demostrar y explicar c mo todo ni o puede volver a empezar despu s de haber sufrido una experiencia traum tica. Maria Callas o Georges Brassens son dos de los casos m s c lebres, pero hay muchos m s ejemplosen las p ginas de este libro que ponen de manifiesto que ninguna herida es un destino, que un ni o traumatizado no est condenado a convertirse en un adulto fracasado y que alguien que ha sido maltratado en la infancia no tiene por qu convertirse en un futuro maltratador. ENGLISH DESCRIPTIONThe keys to stop being an ugly duckling and become a beautiful swan, free of trauma and emotional turmoil. Ugly Ducklings is a crucial reference in the field of modern psychology. Resilience: refers to a body's resistance to breakage after a strike, or the human capacity to be flexible in extreme situations and overcome them. After getting through a difficult childhood marked by the death of his parents in a Nazi concentration camp and his time at several orphanages and safe houses, Boris Cyrulnik adopted the concept of "resilience" and applied it to child psychology in order to demonstrate and explain how every kid can start over after suffering a traumatic experience. Maria Callas and Georges Brassens are two of the most famous cases, but there are many more examples within these pages, underlining how wounds are not manifest destiny, how a traumatized child is not condemned to become a failure in adulthood, and how someone who was mistreated in infancy doesn't have to become a future abuser.

Un l cido an lisis sobre la memoria, la imaginaci n y los recuerdos a trav s de una historia real de superaci n, pero tambi n sobre el trauma, sobre las heridas y la sanaci n. Boris Cyrulnik, eminente psiquiatra y psic logo, profundo conocedor de la mente, vivi una infancia traum tica. Separado de sus padres, que fueron asesinados en campos de concentraci n, vivi como un fugitivo, escondido en casas de familias de acogida y en orfanatos. Como la mayor a de los supervivientes al volver de los campos, y como la mayor a de personas que han vivido situaciones traum ticas durante su infancia, Boris Cyrulnik se refugi en el silencio despu s de la guerra. S lvate, la vida te espera es un libro sobre el trauma, sobre las heridas y la sanaci n, sobre la imposibilidad de contar en un mundo en el que nadie quiere escuchar. Sobre la indiferencia que mata y los v nculos que salvan, sobre las ilusiones del recuerdo, sobre ese fen meno extra o que se llama memoria, que no es la reconstrucci n del pasado sino su representaci n, y que no cuenta la verdad hist rica de los hechos sino otra verdad, todav a m s real: la de la persona que recuerda. A trav s del relato de su propia historia, Boris Cyrulnik ayuda a todos aquellos que intentan escapar de un pasado marcado por el dolor. ENGLISH DESCRIPTION A lucid analysis of memory and imagination through a true story of self-improvement, but also of trauma, wounds, and healing. Boris Cyrulnik, an eminent psychiatrist, and psychologist, deeply knowledgeable about the mind, lived through a traumatic childhood. Separated from his parents, who were murdered in concentration camps, he lived as a fugitive, hiding in foster homes and orphanages. Like most survivors returning from the camps, and like most people who have experienced traumatic situations during their childhood, Boris Cyrulnik took refuge in silence after the war. Save Yourself, Life Awaits You is a book about trauma, wounds, and healing, about the impossibility of telling where no one wants to listen. About the indifference that kills and the bonds that save, about the illusions of memory, about that strange phenomenon called memory, which is not the reconstruction of the past but its representation, and which does not tell the historical truth of the facts but another truth, even more real: that of the person who remembers. Through the telling of his own story, Boris Cyrulnik helps all those who are trying to escape from a past marked by pain.

»Terapeuten som tröstar fransmännen.« Le Figaro Detta är en bok full av hopp. Alla drabbas vi någon gång av ett trauma i livet, kanske en svår barndom, en uppslitande skilsmässa eller en olycka. Men i stället för att styras av vår smärta kan vi växa som människor när vi tar itu med problemen och skapar oss ett nytt liv. I sina banbrytande arbeten om återhämtningsprocessen har Boris Cyrulnik lagt grunden till en ny förståelse av oss själva och vårt förflutna. Han visar hur vi alla har förändrats av vårt trauma, men att vi kan välja mellan att underkasta oss det som om det vore ett öde, eller att bryta oss fria och återvända till livet. Lösningen ligger i att använda oss av vår smärta och ge den en mening. Våra minnen må forma oss, men vi kan också forma våra minnen. »Den första kärleken är en andra chans«, skriver Cyrulnik. När vi möter en partner eller får egna barn inleds återhämtningsprocessen genom att våra livshistorier och vår självsyn modifieras i mötet med den andre, ja, bokstavligen talat skrivs om. När vi sätter ord på vårt trauma väljer vi livet igen. Cyrulnik visar att resan från skada till hopp kanske inte är så lätt, men att vi måste göra den för att överleva. Till syvende och sist är denna bok en hyllning till den läkande kraft som finns i kärleken.