Does your spouse feel more like a business partner than a family partner? You may be in a "Working" marriage. This is a livable spot, but things could be better. Do the two of you act more like roommates? If so, your marriage may be in a "Detached" phase. You are friendly, but there is no excitement. Are you headed for divorce? You probably feel like you are living with an enemy. This sounds like a "Conflictual" marriage. Things are getting bad quickly and you need help. Move from any of these stages to one where you are best friends and lovers once again. Learn to have a "Thriving" marriage. You each benefit greatly from one another, and your children see an example of what a good marriage can be.