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A viral life coach offers a practical, empathetic, and inspiring guide to breaking people-pleasing patterns that can harm our careers, relationships, and physical and psychic health. For most of Hailey Magee's life, people-pleasing came so naturally to her that she didn't even have a word for it. When somebody wanted something from her--even a stranger--she gave it, no matter how uncomfortable, exhausted, or resentful she felt inside. People-pleasing, she learned, was a coping mechanism that had kept her physically and emotionally safe in the past, but wreaked havoc on her life in the present--and she was committed to breaking the pattern once and for all. The solution that social media and self-help shelves gave her was to "Advocate for yourself Speak up Set boundaries " But after years of ignoring her feelings and needs, Magee needed more than boundaries; she needed to reconnect with the "self" who was supposed to be doing the advocating. You can't express yourself if you're cut off from your feelings. You can't fight for your needs if you don't know what they are. And you can't set boundaries with others until you believe you're worthy of more than the bare minimum. Radically reconnecting with herself gave Magee the confidence and self-respect she needed to stand up for herself in her relationships. As she experienced a freedom she never thought possible, she became a certified life coach with the mission of helping others do the same. Stop People Pleasing explains how anyone can break the pattern by learning their own feelings, needs, values, and desires; ending cycles of enmeshment and codependency; overcoming guilt; developing physical and sexual agency; and more. It is a refreshingly nuanced guide, exploring fundamental questions like: -How can I tell when my genuine kindness veers into people-pleasing? -How can I set boundaries while maintaining my empathy and generosity? -When is it appropriate to compromise on my needs, and when is it not? Combining social science, psychology, and hands-on coaching exercises, Stop People Pleasing teaches you how to connect with your own feelings, needs, and dreams; courageously advocate for yourself in your relationships with friends, family, and colleagues; soothe yourself through the growing pains of healing; and dive headfirst into pleasure and play. With fresh insight, heartfelt empathy, and a keen personal understanding of the pitfalls of people-pleasing, Magee helps you say what you need and get what you deserve.

La gu a emp tica para romper los patrones de complacencia y construir relaciones aut nticas basadas en el respeto propio y la conexi n genuina. Por qu seguimos diciendo s cuando en realidad queremos decir no ? Por qu nos sentimos culpables al poner l mites o priorizarnos? Si alguna vez has cedido por miedo al rechazo o al conflicto, este libro es para ti. La complacencia no es solo un rasgo de personalidad, sino tambi n un mecanismo de respuesta aprendido, que puede estar arraigado en el trauma, el miedo al abandono o la necesidad de validaci n externa. Aunque en el pasado pudo protegernos, hoy nos desgasta, nos llena de resentimiento y nos impide vivir con autenticidad. Hailey Magee, psicoterapeuta inglesa, ofrece esta gu a pr ctica para romper ese patr n y aprender a cuidar nuestras necesidades sin culpa. Encontrar s herramientas concretas para: Comprender el origen de la complacencia y c mo te afecta. Identificar tus necesidades, valores y deseos. Establecer l mites firmes sin perder la empat a ni la conexi n con los dem s. Superar la culpa y la ansiedad al decir no y priorizar tu bienestar. M s que un simple libro de autoayuda, esta obra es una invitaci n a un proceso de transformaci n personal. Aprender s a reconectar con tus emociones, recuperar tu voz y construir relaciones m s aut nticas y equilibradas. ENGLISH DESCRIPTION The compassionate guide to breaking people-pleasing patterns and building authentic relationships rooted in self-respect and genuine connection. Why do we keep saying "yes" when we really mean "no"? Why do we feel guilty for setting boundaries or putting ourselves first? If you've ever given in out of fear of rejection or conflict, this book is for you. People-pleasing isn't just a personality trait--it's a learned coping mechanism that may be rooted in trauma, fear of abandonment, or the need for external validation. While it may have protected us in the past, today it drains us, breeds resentment, and keeps us from living authentically. Hailey Magee, a UK-based psychotherapist, offers a practical guide to breaking this pattern and learning to honor your needs without guilt. Inside, you'll find concrete tools to: Understand the roots of people-pleasing and how it affects you. Identify your needs, values, and desires. Set firm boundaries without losing empathy or connection. Overcome guilt and anxiety when saying "no" and prioritizing your well-being. More than just a self-help book, this is an invitation to personal transformation. You'll learn to reconnect with your emotions, reclaim your voice, and build more authentic, balanced relationships.