In this book Dr. Holman (a pseudonym) is an experienced psychologist who had, over the years, developed his theory he calls "Anger is a Hot Potato". In brief, the theory proposes that anger arises from the stopping or blocking of positive impulse wishes. The angers that do arise from blocked good wisher become the pre-eminent basis for the development of each one's unique personality. The anger must be handled by directing it outward, or holding it in (where it becomes a time bomb). Molly is a client whose explorations within her are presented through excerpts from her therapy sessions, her journals and her conversations with her beloved mentor, Kay. One of the significant concepts that emerge in his Hot Potato Theory is that "Good Relationships are on a Collision Course". People hold anger in a "Reservoir". When it is safe, they will let it out at someone. So when a mate feels loved enough, safe enough, they will let anger out at the one closest to them. Anger comes in many forms ranging from hot anger to cold anger. The most insidious and detrimental to the individual and the relationship is hidden anger. Most people carry a burden of hidden anger throughout their lives. Molly is no exception. We see how she learns Dr. Holman's methods to dissolve this burden. Anger turned outward is epidemic. Dr. Holman explains that our culture requires us to have a justified reason for blaming someone. So we use our intellect to create "good" reasons for our blame, criticisms or the judgement of others. This hides the "real" reasons for our anger. The result is we use our skills to play the right-wrong game and the blame game. Dr. Holman guides Molly to awareness that justified anger can become addictive. She learns how to search out the real reason for anger, which is something she wants to do and is not doing it
The Instant-Series Presents "Instant Anger Management"How to Control Anger Instantly Since you are reading this, you probably have some anger issues affecting you. Take for instances... You are driving late to work, and somebody cuts you off, driving slowly in front of you.You are trying to talk, and somebody keeps interrupting you, taking away your spotlight.You are at the store, and somebody overcharges you, making you wait in line and causing everybody behind blaming you.You are ordering something, and somebody messes up entirely what you wanted, making you go through all the hassle returning it.You are working, and somebody keeps bothering you, making you lose your train of focus with your already overdue work.What is your automatic reaction? Anger is a natural go-to response, and your anger may even be justified. Who doesn't want to lash out that idiot who spilled coffee on someone's brand new favorite outfit by immediate default...yet then they try to hold back that anger? The problem is when anger is constantly easily triggered or can't be contained. You may think anger makes you tough, but by being angry all the time, deep down there is something bothering you - either out of fear so it acts as a shield or harboring deep emotional pain from the past because of someone or something. The sad part is, your anger not only affects you, but those around you: your friends, family, and loved-ones. If you don't control this vicious cycle, not only can you end up regretting it, but end up hurting yourself and those closest to you. The good news is, anger is an emotion, and like any emotion...it can be controlled. Within "Instant Anger Management" How to quickly get rid with of your anger as soon as it happens with instant anger management techniques.How to uncover the root of the anger problems so you know where the real issues lie to finally unburden yourself.How to control your anger with preventive measurements the moment it is about to appear, so you won't regret it afterward.How to easily turn all those negative emotions into positive ones so you can live a more happy life.How to stay anger-free for the rest of your life so you're no longer feeling drained, able to focus on what really matters.Plus, custom practical "how-to" strategies, techniques, applications and exercises to dealing with anger....and much more. Don't let anger control you; let your anger be controlled by YOU. Take back your life and feel the joy it has to offer, not the anger that makes you hate it.
Are you struggling to control your anger? Feel like you're on a short fuse all the time? Do little things tip you over the edge? Unhelpful beliefs and rigid expectations can lead to a cycle of unhealthy anger, which can be dangerous and destructive. Windy Dryden draws a distinction between healthy and unhealthy anger, and shows you how you can control your unhealthy anger by understanding what triggers it. The good news is that you have the power to change this pattern, and to develop strategies to express your anger in a helpful way, so that you can communicate what you feel without scaring yourself, or those close to you. Practical, rational, strategic and supportive, this updated second edition contains the latest therapeutic insights, allowing you to make lasting and meaningful changes to the way you process your beliefs and manage overwhelming or destructive emotions.
Navigate Anger is a guide to take you on the journey to overcoming anger problems using rational practices and mindfulness techniques. In it, you will: 1. Learn the benefits we gain from anger 2.Find out why anger is so addictive and why it's hard to give up 3.Understand the appropriate way to handle tough situations 4.Five steps to change your overwhelming thoughts into more constructive ones 5.Do more than just stop getting angry, learn to be at peace
