Beverly Engel

A step-by-step guide to help both victims of emotional abuse and their abusers escape unhealthy patterns originating from childhood abuse and neglect In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognized therapist Beverly Engel walks readers through a proven program designed to help readers get to the core of their unhealthy behavior patterns. This book was written specifically for two types of couples—those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves to and make the necessary changes to stop abusing. Unique among books of this type, Engel focuses on both the abused person and the abuser, offering non-judgmental advice to both groups. She offers effective strategies, techniques, and information to end abusive behaviors, including: Why some people are attracted to abusive people and vice versaPatterns created from childhood neglect and abuse and how to break themDetermining if you or your partner suffers from a personality disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline Personality DisorderHow to decide whether to continue the relationship or end itThe importance of healing shame caused by childhood neglect and abuseHow self-compassion can help heal both victims of emotional abuse and the abusers themselvesThe Emotionally Abusive Relationship is essential for those involved in unhealthy relationships or who have loved ones trapped in an emotionally abusive situation. Therapist recommended, this book is also a must-read resource for students of psychotherapy.

Eta kniga dlja zhenschin, kotorye verjat, chto poluchit ot okruzhajuschikh ljubov, prinjatie, zabotu i oschuschenie bezopasnosti vozmozhno tolko buduchi khoroshej i udobnoj. Psikhoterapevt Beverli Eng predlagaet avtorskuju programmu, proverennuju 35-letnim opytom i osnovannuju na pravilakh razvitija chetyrekh "U": uverennosti, umenij, ubezhdennosti i udivitelnoj smelosti. S pomoschju etoj knigi vy: - izbavites ot zhelanija vsem nravitsja; - perestanete stavit chuvstva i potrebnosti drugikh ljudej vyshe sobstvennykh; - nauchites opiratsja na svoe sobstvennoe Ja; - raskroete potentsial, nachnete podderzhivat i zaschischat sebja; - zamenite kritikujuschij golos, zvuchaschij u vas v golove, drugim - podderzhivajuschim vnutrennim golosom. "Khoroshij, osnovatelnyj podkhod k kovarnomu, no slishkom rasprostranennomu tipu otnoshenij, v kotorykh oruzhiem javljajutsja slova i nastroenija, a ne kulak, no kotorye nanosjat takoj zhe masshtabnyj uscherb. Samoe glavnoe, chto miss Engl ne prosto opisyvaet - ona daet nam vykhod". - Sjuzan Forvard, psikholog, avtor bestsellerov "Emotsionalnyj shantazh" i "Toksichnye roditeli""100 iz 100. Dizajnerskaja serija" - eto kollaboratsija mezhdu "EKSMO" i Jandeks.Knigi, v ramkakh kotoroj dizajnery predlagajut svoe unikalnoe videnie literaturnykh proizvedenij. Mnogogrannost rossijskoj i zarubezhnoj sovremennoj prozy podcherkivaetsja raznoobraziem khudozhestvennykh priemov v oformlenii. Udobnyj format. Mjagkij pereplet. Kremovaja bumaga.

Emotsionalnoe nasilie - eto ne objazatelno kriki i bitaja posuda. Chasche ono projavljaetsja tikho: cherez kontrol, obestsenivanie, ignorirovanie ili manipuljatsii. No ego mozhno ostanovit, esli znat, kak dejstvovat. Beverli Engl - priznannyj psikhoterapevt i spetsialist po rabote s zhertvami nasilija - pomozhet raspoznat skrytye formy abjuza, ponjat psikhologiju zavisimosti, ostanovit nasilie i, pri neobkhodimosti, bezopasno vyjti iz toksichnykh otnoshenij.Kniga objasnjaet, chto takoe emotsionalnoe nasilie, otkuda ono beretsja i kak s nim spravitsja. Prichem nevazhno, kto vy v etoj istorii - tot, komu bolno, ili tot, kto prichinjaet bol.

Beverli Engl - psikhoterapevt s 35-letnim stazhem, spetsialist po rabote s zhertvami psikhologicheskogo, emotsionalnogo i seksualnogo nasilija. Avtor tselogo rjada knig po samopomoschi. Chasto vystupaet ekspertom v razlichnykh teleprogrammakh, a takzhe v gazetakh i zhurnalakh, vkljuchaja Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post. S detstva my smotrimsja v zerkalo, kotorym vystupajut nashi roditeli. Vzrosleja, my stalkivaemsja i s drugimi zerkalami, no neizbezhno vozvraschaemsja k pervonachalnomu otrazheniju, dazhe ne soznavaja etogo. V knige "Istseli svoi travmy" Beverli Engl predlagaet vysokoeffektivnuju programmu zerkalnoj terapii, s pomoschju kotoroj vy smozhete otvergnut iskazhennye obrazy, kotorye vashi roditeli namerenno ili nenarokom proetsirovali na vas. Ona issleduet 7 samykh rasprostranennykh roditelskikh zerkal, predostavljaja konkretnye sovety i strategii istselenija travm, nanesennykh kazhdym iz nikh. V ETOJ KNIGE: - Izbavtes ot negativnogo otrazhenija vashikh roditelej i sozdajte pozitivnyj obraz sebja. - Zagljanite glubzhe v zerkalo: otkrojte nastojaschego sebja, svoi simpatii i antipatii, tseli i mechty. - Uspokojte vnutrennego kritika i preodolejte svoe stremlenie k samobichevaniju. - Nauchites vospityvat sebja i ustanavlivajte effektivnye ogranichenija, kotorye pomogut kontrolirovat svoju sklonnost k pereedaniju/izlishnim tratam/trudogolizmu/pereutomleniju. - Nauchites ljubit togo, kogo vy vidite v zerkale. OTZYVY: "Emotsionalno zhestokie roditeli nanosjat znachitelnyj uscherb samootsenke i samovosprijatiju svoikh detej. V etoj zamechatelnoj knige Beverli Engl delitsja svoej moschnoj programmoj zerkalnoj terapii, kotoraja pomogaet vzroslym ljudjam preodolet styd, otkazatsja ot samokritiki, stat bolee sostradatelnymi k sebe, prinjat sebja. Ja nastojatelno rekomenduju ee vsem, kto podvergalsja emotsionalnomu nasiliju, prenebrezheniju ili giperopeke v detstve". - Sjuzan Forvard, doktor filosofii, avtor knig "Emotsionalnyj shantazh", "Bezrazlichnye materi""V etoj knige Beverli Engl dokumentiruet shirokij spektr psikhologicheskikh zloupotreblenij, s kotorymi mnogie stalkivajutsja v detstve. Primery iz praktiki i lichnye istorii patsientov javljajutsja moschnymi napominanijami o tom, chto, buduchi vzroslymi, mnogie iz nas vse esche ogranicheny toj zaschitoj, kotoruju my sformirovali v detstve. Pronitsatelnye ankety i uprazhnenija Engl okazyvajut konkretnuju pomosch v protsesse istselenija. Etoj knige suzhdeno polozhitelno povlijat na mnogie zhizni". - Dzhojs Ketlett, doktor meditsinskikh nauk, soavtor knigi "Strakh blizosti"Perevodchik: Scherbakova V.

Eta kniga dlja zhenschin, kotorye verjat, chto poluchit ot okruzhajuschikh ljubov, prinjatie, zabotu i oschuschenie bezopasnosti vozmozhno tolko buduchi khoroshej i udobnoj. Psikhoterapevt Beverli Eng predlagaet avtorskuju programmu, proverennuju 35-letnim opytom i osnovannuju na pravilakh razvitija chetyrekh "U": uverennosti, umenij, ubezhdennosti i udivitelnoj smelosti. S pomoschju etoj knigi: - izbavites ot zhelanija vsem nravitsja, - perestanete stavit chuvstva i potrebnosti drugikh ljudej vyshe sobstvennykh, - nauchites opiratsja na svoe sobstvennoe Ja, - raskroete potentsial, nachnete podderzhivat i zaschischat sebja, - zamenite kritikujuschij golos, zvuchaschij u vas v golove, drugim - podderzhivajuschim vnutrennim golosom. "Khoroshij, osnovatelnyj podkhod k kovarnomu, no slishkom rasprostranennomu tipu otnoshenij, v kotorykh oruzhiem javljajutsja slova i nastroenija, a ne kulak, no kotorye nanosjat takoj zhe masshtabnyj uscherb. Samoe glavnoe, chto miss Engl ne prosto opisyvaet - ona daet nam vykhod". - Sjuzan Forvard, psikholog, avtor bestsellerov "Emotsionalnyj shantazh" i "Toksichnye roditeli".Perevodchik: Arevkina Ju. M.

Chasto v otnoshenijakh zhenschiny stavjat potrebnosti partnerov vyshe sobstvennykh. V razgare ljubovnogo romana oni rastvorjajutsja v muzhchinakh, prenebregajut kareroj, khobbi, obscheniem s druzjami ili dazhe svoim zdorovem. Takie zhenschiny stanovjatsja Ischezajuschimi, potomu chto iz strakha odinochestva oni gotovy byt kem ugodno, no ne soboj. ETA KNIGA POMOZHET ZHENSCHINAM: - Perestat iskat muzhchin, chtoby pochuvstvovat sebja polnotsennoj. - Vzrastit chuvstvo sobstvennogo dostoinstva. - Privlekat dostojnykh muzhchin svoej uverennostju. - Ostavatsja vernoj sebe, ne podstraivajas pod partnera. - Zhit v udovolstvie, protsvetaja v otnoshenijakh. V knige "Ljubi ego, ne terjaja sebja" Beverli Engl, psikhoterapevt s 35-letnim stazhem, issleduet prichiny, po kotorym tak mnogo zhenschin budto ischezajut v otnoshenijakh, i predlagaet prostuju programmu, kotoraja pozvolit stat zhenschinoj Suschestvujuschej. "Eto moschnaja i vmeste s tem praktichnaja kniga. Zhenschiny dolzhny prochest ee, chtoby vernut sebe silu i energiju, blagodarja kotorym kogda-to privlekli svoikh partnerov. A muzhchiny - chtoby ponjat zhenskuju tochku zrenija i vnov obresti tselnuju i ljubjaschuju sputnitsu". - ROBERT EPSHTEJN, glavnyj redaktor Psychology Today

Eta kniga dlja zhenschin, kotorye verjat, chto ikh poljubjat tolko esli oni budut udobnymi dlja okruzhajuschikh. Chto tolko khoroshie, poslushnye devochki dostojny zaboty i uvazhenija i tolko s takimi budut schitatsja v seme i na rabote. Psikhoterapevt Beverli Eng predlagaet avtorskuju programmu, proverennuju 35-letnim opytom i osnovannuju na pravilakh razvitija chetyrekh "U": uverennosti, umenij, ubezhdennosti i udivitelnoj smelosti.

Chasto v otnoshenijakh zhenschiny stavjat potrebnosti partnerov vyshe svoikh sobstvennykh. Nakhodjas v razgare ljubovnogo romana, rastvorjajutsja v muzhchinakh, prenebregajut kareroj, khobbi, druzjami ili dazhe svoim zdorovem. Takie zhenschiny stanovjatsja Ischezajuschimi, oni perestajut byt samimi soboj. V knige "Ljubi ego, ne terjaja sebja" Beverli Engl, psikhoterapevt s 35-letnim stazhem, issleduet prichiny, po kotorym tak mnogo zhenschin pogruzhajutsja v otnoshenija s golovoj, i predlagaet prostuju programmu, kotoraja pozvolit stat zhenschinoj Suschestvujuschej. V ETOJ KNIGE: - Perestanete iskat muzhchin, chtoby pochuvstvovat sebja polnotsennoj. - Nauchites podderzhivat v sebe chuvstvo sobstvennogo dostoinstva. - Smozhete privlech dostojnogo muzhchinu svoej uverennostju. - Budete ostavatsja vernoj samoj sebe, ne podstraivajas pod partnera. - Sozdadite svoe "ja" i nachnete zhit v udovolstvie, protsvetaja v otnoshenijakh. "Eto moschnaja i vmeste s tem praktichnaja kniga. Zhenschiny dolzhny prochest ee, chtoby vernut sebe silu i energiju, blagodarja kotorym kogda-to privlekli svoikh partnerov. A muzhchiny - chtoby ponjat zhenskuju tochku zrenija i vnov obresti tselnuju i ljubjaschuju sputnitsu". - ROBERT EPSHTEJN, glavnyj redaktor Psychology Today

S detstva my smotrimsja v zerkalo, kotorym vystupajut nashi roditeli. Vzrosleja, my stalkivaemsja i s drugimi zerkalami, no neizbezhno vozvraschaemsja k pervonachalnomu otrazheniju, dazhe ne soznavaja etogo. V knige "Istseli svoi travmy" Beverli Engl - psikhoterapevt s 35-letnim stazhem, predlagaet vysokoeffektivnuju programmu zerkalnoj terapii, s pomoschju kotoroj vy smozhete otvergnut iskazhennye obrazy, kotorye vashi roditeli namerenno ili nenarokom proetsirovali na vas. Ona issleduet 7 samykh rasprostranennykh roditelskikh zerkal, predostavljaja konkretnye sovety i strategii istselenija travm, nanesennykh kazhdym iz nikh. V ETOJ KNIGE: - Izbavtes ot negativnogo otrazhenija vashikh roditelej i sozdajte pozitivnyj obraz sebja. - Zagljanite glubzhe v zerkalo: otkrojte nastojaschego sebja, svoi simpatii i antipatii, tseli i mechty. - Uspokojte vnutrennego kritika i preodolejte svoe stremlenie k samobichevaniju. - Nauchites vospityvat sebja i ustanavlivajte effektivnye ogranichenija, kotorye pomogut kontrolirovat svoju sklonnost k pereedaniju/izlishnim tratam/trudogolizmu/pereutomleniju. - Nauchites ljubit togo, kogo vy vidite v zerkale. OB AVTORE Beverli Engl - spetsialist po rabote s zhertvami psikhologicheskogo, emotsionalnogo i seksualnogo nasilija. Avtor tselogo rjada knig po samopomoschi. Chasto vystupaet ekspertom v razlichnykh teleprogrammakh, a takzhe v gazetakh i zhurnalakh, vkljuchaja Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post. OTZYVY: "Emotsionalno zhestokie roditeli nanosjat znachitelnyj uscherb samootsenke i samovosprijatiju svoikh detej. V etoj zamechatelnoj knige Beverli Engl delitsja svoej moschnoj programmoj zerkalnoj terapii, kotoraja pomogaet vzroslym ljudjam preodolet styd, otkazatsja ot samokritiki, stat bolee sostradatelnymi k sebe, prinjat sebja. Ja nastojatelno rekomenduju ee vsem, kto podvergalsja emotsionalnomu nasiliju, prenebrezheniju ili giperopeke v detstve". - Sjuzan Forvard, doktor filosofii, avtor knig "Emotsionalnyj shantazh", "Bezrazlichnye materi""V etoj knige Beverli Engl dokumentiruet shirokij spektr psikhologicheskikh zloupotreblenij, s kotorymi mnogie stalkivajutsja v detstve. Primery iz praktiki i lichnye istorii patsientov javljajutsja moschnymi napominanijami o tom, chto, buduchi vzroslymi, mnogie iz nas vse esche ogranicheny toj zaschitoj, kotoruju my sformirovali v detstve. Pronitsatelnye ankety i uprazhnenija Engl okazyvajut konkretnuju pomosch v protsesse istselenija. Etoj knige suzhdeno polozhitelno povlijat na mnogie zhizni". - Dzhojs Ketlett, doktor meditsinskikh nauk, soavtor knigi "Strakh blizosti"

Childhood sexual abuse (or child sexual abuse/CSA) is not only an assault on the body—it is an assault on the mind and on the spirit. It is an insult to the victim’s integrity, her self-esteem, his very being. Besides imposing a significantly higher risk of conditions like depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), sexual exploitation, intimate partner violence, suicidality, substance abuse, and learning & educational difficulties, the most devastating consequence of childhood sexual abuse is shame. Freedom at Last will help victims of this form of abuse recover from all aspects of this extreme shame and its damaging after-effects.Not only does shame from CSA cause a multitude of problems, but this very same shame stands in the way of a victim’s ability to recover and heal. Victims often struggle with shame’s correlation with dissociation, difficulty forming relationships, emotional barriers to disclosing abuse and seeking help, and a lasting negative effect on victim’s sense of self. In this groundbreaking book, leading psychologist Dr. Beverly Engel reveals the truth about how CSA affects victims, dispels common myths surrounding this type of abuse, explains the nuances behind the emotion of shame, and teaches readers how to develop more self-awareness about how shame has manifested in their lives along with powerful and effective shame-reduction strategies. Freedom at Last offers effective strategies for not only healing the negative effects of abuse-related shame, but also to help overcome the shame that keeps survivors from seeking help. Using the most recent research along with her 35-year career working with victims of child sexual abuse, Dr. Engel provides a blueprint for readers and their loved ones to overcome the debilitating effects of shame, including strategies for emotional release, encouragement to free themselves from their secrets, teaching self-forgiveness, eliminating shame-causing behaviors, and removing shame from unhealthy behaviors and attitudes.

V komplekt voshli 3 knigi: "Sindrom khoroshej devochki. Kak izbavitsja ot negativnykh ustanovok iz detstva, prinjat i poljubit sebja", "Istseli svoi travmy. Kak ostavit v proshlom strakh i styd, podnjat samootsenku i uspokoit vnutrennego kritika" i "Ljubit ego, ne terjaja sebja. Kak perestat rastvorjatsja v otnoshenijakh, sokhranit lichnye granitsy i svoe "ja".Annotatsija na "Sindrom khoroshej devochki. Kak izbavitsja ot negativnykh ustanovok iz detstva, prinjat i poljubit sebja"Zhenschiny postojanno mirjatsja s nepriemlemym ili dazhe zhestokim obrascheniem so storony okruzhajuschikh, v osobennosti muzhchin. Mne stanovitsja grustno kazhdyj raz, kogda ja slyshu ot zhenschin o plokhom obraschenii. I, khotja otvet mne izvesten, ja chasto lovlju sebja na mysli: "Pochemu oni terpjat vse eto?". Esche bolshe menja pechalit to, chto eti zhenschiny perezhivajut za svoikh abjuzerov. "Kak zhe on bez menja", - samaja rasprostranennaja reaktsija na razgovory o vykhode iz nezdorovykh otnoshenij. Eta kniga adresovana zhenschinam, kotorym esche predstoit uznat, chto, esli oni ne pozabotjatsja o sebe sami, nikto drugoj ne sdelaet etogo za nikh. Ona dlja zhenschin, kotorye postojanno otodvigajut na zadnij plan svoi sobstvennye potrebnosti, chtoby privlech ili uderzhat muzhchinu. I dlja zhenschin, postepenno nachinajuschikh ponimat, chto v dolgosrochnoj perspektive byt khoroshej devochkoj nevygodno. V osobennosti dlja zhenschin, kotorye v nastojaschee vremja podvergajutsja emotsionalnomu, slovesnomu ili fizicheskomu nasiliju.Annotatsija na "Istseli svoi travmy. Kak ostavit v proshlom strakh i styd, podnjat samootsenku i uspokoit vnutrennego kritika"V svoej knige Beverli Engl, psikhoterapevt s 35-letnim stazhem, rassmatrivaet osnovnye vidy detskikh travm i predlagaet "zerkalnyj metod" ikh istselenija. Opisyvaja sem tipov "krivykh zerkal", kotorymi stanovjatsja dlja detej ikh roditeli, Engl pojasnjaet, kak rabotat s kazhdym iz nikh, chtoby otvergnut negativnye roditelskie proektsii i popravit samootsenku. Ona podrobno opisyvaet, kak vozdejstvujut na detej chrezmerno kritichnye roditeli, roditeli-perfektsionisty, roditeli-nartsissy, giperopekajuschie roditeli, prenebregajuschie roditeli, sklonnye k chrezmernomu kontrolju roditeli, a takzhe roditeli, kotorye brosali svoikh detej. Projdja oprosniki i vypolniv zadanija iz knigi, vy smozhete vybratsja iz lovushki otrazhenij proshlogo, povysite samootsenku, nauchites ljubit i uvazhat sebja, luchshe pojmete svoi istinnye tseli i mechty. Annotatsija na "Ljubit ego, ne terjaja sebja. Kak perestat rastvorjatsja v otnoshenijakh, sokhranit lichnye granitsy i svoe "ja"Chasto tak byvaet, chto vstupaja v novye otnoshenija ili nakhodjas v nikh prodolzhitelnoe vremja, my zhertvuem svoej individualnostju, ubezhdenijami, kareroj, druzjami, a inogda dazhe zdravym smyslom. I chasto etot protsess proiskhodit nezametno dlja nas samikh. Snachala my ustupaem, soglashaemsja, a posle uzhe otkazyvaemsja ot "sebja" kak by rastvorjajas v otnoshenijakh. My stanovimsja "Ischezajuschimi zhenschinami".Kniga Beverli Engl daet nam otvet na vopros pochemu tak proiskhodit i obuchaet konkretnym strategijam - kak izmenitsja prjamo sejchas i stat otdelnoj jarkoj lichnostju v otnoshenijakh, kotoruju tsenjat i uvazhajut. Ona takzhe soderzhit sovety o tom, kak podderzhivat v sebe chuvstvo sobstvennogo dostoinstva i individualnosti, kotorye pomogut privlech muzhchinu i zanovo otkryt sebja kak "Suschestvujuschuju zhenschinu".

Eta kniga dlja vas, esli: - v otnoshenijakh vy chuvstvuete sebja plokho, no ne znaete pochemu; - vash partner pozvoljaet sebe bezobidnye, no chastye nasmeshki ili dazhe otkrytye oskorblenija i unizhenija, ogranichivaet vash krug obschenija; - u vas v pare net realnoj blizosti, otsutstvuet doverie i ponimanie; - vy khotite, no ne mozhete prekratit otnoshenija. Psikhologicheskoe nasilie trudno vyjavit, potomu chto ono skryto, kovarno i obmanchivo. V knige "Ljubov, kotoraja ubivaet" Beverli Engl, izvestnyj psikhoterapevt, shag za shagom pomozhet projti programmu, kotoraja osvobodit ot okov abjuzivnogo partnera i sdelaet silnee. Chto by vy ni khoteli: ostatsja v otnoshenijakh ili razorvat ikh, - vam nuzhno nabratsja smelosti, sily i reshimosti protivostojat abjuzeru. "Rukovodstvo po ponimaniju i preodoleniju emotsionalnogo nasilija. Beverli Engel daet vam vsju neobkhodimuju informatsiju, chtoby perestat vinit sebja i vernut kontrol nad svoej zhiznju". - Landi Benkroft, avtor knigi "Pochemu on delaet eto? Kto takoj abjuzer i kak emu protivostojat"

Quarterfinalist in the 2019 BookLife Prize Nonfiction Contest, Self-help CategoryReaders' Favorite 5-Star ReviewThriving After Sexual Abuse is an eloquent and empathetic self-development book laying out a blueprint for survivors to heal themselves. Denise Bossarte writes with fierce candor as she shares her own traumatic experience with childhood sexual abuse. Thriving provides tips and suggestions for readers to seek help, self-reflect, and pursue healing through a range of activities and practices and offers tangible strategies for readers to reclaim their lives and move forward to a life of Thriving."Bossarte reveals vividly personal, harrowing recollections from a long span of her young years, contrasting those dark years and their negative effect on her personal growth with a plethora of resources for accessing professional guidance and unlocking inner determination. While not glossing over how difficult a path this can be, her book proffers hope and pragmatic solutions to anyone recovering from severe trauma. In a book that is at once deeply honest and informative, Bossarte examines the most difficult of subjects with grace, sensitivity, and profound empathy for survivors, which makes this book an essential guide for the process of healing." Self-Publishing Review

Does your partner blame you for his or her own problems?Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others?Is your partner impossible to please?Are you convinced something is wrong with you?Are you too ashamed to admit you are being abused?In Escaping Emotional Abuse, Beverly Engel, world-renowned therapist and expert in emotional abuse, exposes techniques an abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control - and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve.By using your deepest fears against you, the abuser strips you of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity - making you feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But you possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows you how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps you jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help you heal and regain self-confidence.An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.

The world-renowned therapist and author of the groundbreaking self-help classic, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, delves into the most destructive and powerful weapon of the abuser: shame. And reveals its most powerful antidote... In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle, yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control--and guides readers on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve. Emotionally abused people are gradually stripped of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity--making them feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But they possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps readers jumpstart the process of recovery by offering specific steps to help heal, regain self-confidence--and ultimately become empowered enough to leave--for good. An invaluable resource for both men and women who suffer from emotional abuse, as well as therapists and advocates, Escaping Emotional Abuse is a supportive, nurturing guide for anyone seeking to break the chains of shame, and gain the emotional freedom to create healthier, lasting relationships.

In spite of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, many women are still afraid to say no to unwanted sexual advances and reluctant to report sexual violations. Far too many college students are being raped and are afraid to report it. Women are subjected to sexual harassment, sexual bullying, and sexual pressure every day on the street, at work, and at home but are unable to speak truth to power or to report these sexual offenses. I’m Saying No! is written specifically for these women—women who are still afraid to speak up for themselves, women who need to learn how to do so, and women whose personal history of child sexual abuse or sexual assault as an adult has wounded them so much that they have lost their voice. Here, Beverly Engel—an internationally recognized psychotherapist and acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse—offers a ground-breaking program to help all the women who have been silenced by past trauma, women who were raised to believe they didn’t have a right to say no, and women who have spoken out in the past only to go unheard. Bold and timely, I’m Saying No! offers women the encouragement, support, and guidelines they need in order to become the powerful women they are—women who believe in themselves and stand up for themselves.

No one could have imagined how as a child Beverly Engel could have managed to become who she is today - an internationally known expert on abuse recovery and the best-selling author of twenty-two self-help books. This is the raw, candid story of how she made her way in the world in spite of her mother's neglect, unreasonable expectations and constant criticism; in spite of being sexually abused, first at four years old and then at nine; and in spite of being raped at twelve. Raising Myself takes readers on a remarkable journey, showing us how Engel, who was basically on her own from the age of four, learned how to cope with a neglectful, narcissistic mother while being surrounded by a cast of characters that included eccentrics and misfits, a religious fanatic, child molesters, rapists, and hoodlums. It is a soul-searching memoir about how she came dangerously close to the edge of becoming a child molester, a criminal, and a suicide, and how she battled her inner demons and struggled to keep her heart open and to 'reinvent' herself so she could follow her dream of making something of herself. Powerfully inspiring and unflinchingly honest, Raising Myself is a story of remarkable resilience and insight.

Your partner's addiction takes a toll on both of your lives. That doesn't mean you should turn your back on the person you love. We've been told that staying with a partner who struggles with addiction--whether it be with drugs, alcohol, or addictive behaviors--means that we're enabling their destructive behavior. That wanting to help them means we're codependent, and that the best thing for both of us is to walk away from the relationship entirely. But is that true? When Your Partner Has an Addiction challenges the idea that the best chance for recovery--for the addict and their partner--is to walk away. Instead, it makes the revolutionary claim that you, and the love you have for your partner, can be a key part of his or her journey to recovery. Together, addiction activist and bestselling author Christopher Kennedy Lawford and psychotherapist Beverly Engel, MFT, take a fresh look at addiction and codependency--the latest research on what causes them and what the two have in common. Rather than treat addiction or codependency as disease or weakness, When Your Partner Has an Addiction honors the trauma and shame that often lie at their source and shows you how to use your love to combat that shame, allowing you to more effectively support your partner and heal yourself. The research proves that, while you cannot "fix" your partner, you can have a positive impact on their recovery. Whether you suffer from codependency, and whether your partner is already in recovery, When Your Partner Has an Addiction provides you with proven techniques and strategies to drastically improve your relationship and help get your partner the help he needs--without leaving and while taking care of yourself in the process.

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault. In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion - based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step - by - step exercises in this book, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences. Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post - traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self - compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self - compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self - criticism, thought suppression, and rumination. This book is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this book, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop the crippling self - blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.