Dating Goddess

Don't waste time with men who aren't a possible match Save yourself from dead-end dates by vetting potential suitors before you agree to even coffee. If you want to minimize time spent with men who clearly aren't a match, screen contacts through email and the phone. Converse several times before agreeing to even coffee. Under the cloak of anonymity that email and the phone provides, men often reveal more than they intend. If you ask the right questions you can uncover his values and world view after just an interaction or two. Avoid showing up to discover your date could be the grandfather of your online correspondent - and 80 pounds heavier than his picture. Learn that when your potential date says he is "romantic" it means he will greet you with a French kiss. Probe to find out that his idea of getting to know you means between the sheets - ideally (to him) on the first date. You can determine if he's a droning, angry or sex-crazed man through his emails and calls. Sample topics: - Becoming smitten with the fantasy - Can Google help - or hinder - your dating life? - Qualify your potential dates before meeting - The art of consideration - Anticipating a big date is like awaiting Santa - Being seduced by what he is over who he is - Are you his spare? - My boyfriend, whom I haven't met - When canceling is the right thing to do - Politics, religion and sex - oh my Check Him Out Before Going Out focuses on what you need to ask before saying "yes" to a date. This book will help you better understand what to look for and what to avoid.

You can tell a lot about a man within the first 30 minutes. You met on a dating site - or it's a blind date set up by well-meaning friends. He sounded nice enough to want to get to know him better. Does he show up need and well-groomed or ill-kempt? Late or on time? What does he talk about? Does he ask you questions? If so, what does he want to know about you? What do you need to know about him? How does he treat you? How does he treat those around you? Learn why you should never accept a dinner invitation for the first date. Or allow him to pick you up. Or fight with him over the check. And dozens of more do's and don'ts. First-Rate First Dates focuses on what goes on during the first date. How do you determine if you want a second date? What you can do to increase the likelihood your date will ask you for a second? Assuming you want a repeat Sample topics: - Start with coffee - How do you greet him? - When it clicks, throw out some of your criteria - Tracking your date's score - Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call - 12 signs he won't be asking for a second date - First-date red flags that this guy isn't for you - Honesty is not always the best policy - Chemistry, or does he make my toes curl? - Women's first-date blunders First-Rate First Dates will help you understand what to look for in a first date to determine if you want a second. Don't wait - get more second dates with men who intrigue you.

Embracing Midlife Men: Insights Into Curious Behaviors Do you sometimes scratch your head after interacting with a midlife man, wondering, "What could he possibly be thinking?" Especially if it's before, during or after a date with a man who presumably wants to impress you Embracing Midlife Men: Insights Into Curious Behaviors focuses on better understanding midlife men's behaviors. When you grasp what's going on in his head it's much easier to embrace him. Men are wondrous creatures, so we need to understand them better and love them for who they are. Sample chapters - Men are like shoes - Why men disappear when it gets serious - Chivalry isn't dead -but it seems to be hibernating - Do men want feisty women? - Midlife men have forgotten how to date - Are you getting prime time from your man? - When a man tells you what he paid for things - Does he treat you like his ex? - Has Greg Behrendt done women a disservice? - Tales of woo

Survive a breakup with as little angst as possible "Breaking up" sounds so high school, doesn't it? But part of the dating process at any age is clearly communicating when one decides not to see the other anymore. Going "poof" - not returning emails, texts, calls, or IMs - is not a mature or respectful choice. But as the song says, breaking up is hard to do - at least hard to do right "Right" means sensitively, respectfully, without drama and blame, consciously working to leave the other person's ego and dignity in tact, even if he did something disrespectful. Whether you are the initiator or the recipient, you owe it to yourself - not just him - to move on with grace. If you are the "dumpee" - released by the other, how can you pick yourself off and continue your search for The One? Especially if had fallen hard. Sample topics: o Hello - goodbye: How to say no thanks after meeting o Releasing back into the dating pool o 50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways not to leave your suitor o Breaking up is hard to do - right o Why men go "poof" o How to trump being dumped o When breaking up is a "Get Out of Jail Free" card o How to detect the end is near o Failed relationships' blessings o He's broken up with you - he just didn't tell you o Rejection is protection Moving On Gracefully helps you survive a breakup, whether you initiate it or not. Either way, it's never easy to break up if you have developed fondness toward the other. The book covers aspects of moving on maturely and healthily, whether it's after one coffee date or after an extended relationship.

Is he a keeper or should you toss him back into the dating pool? You've begun to go out with a man you like but with whom you haven't fallen in love. How do you decide if you should continue seeing him, or to release him because he's not The One? There are things you like about him - maybe even adore - but there are also things that drive you up the wall. Are these deal breakers? Or just reminders that we all have behaviors that loved ones learn to tolerate? Or maybe you're ambivalent - he's a nice guy, he treats you well and shares activities you enjoy. But there's not the spark you want to feel again. You like him, but will you fall in love with him? Real Deal or Faux Beau focuses on second dates and beyond. During the dating process you are both assessing if you want to keep seeing each other. This book helps you determine what questions to ask yourself. Sample topics: - Deciding to see him again or not - What's your date's Delight/Disappointment Scale score? - Broaching tough conversations - "I want to respect me in the morning" - Does he invite you to his place? - Are you stingy in dating? - When his hand is on your knee too soon - Easy way to ask hard questions - Rose-colored glasses obscure red flags - If his stories don't add up, subtract yourself Be forearmed about what you need to continue dating someone, or whether to let him go. Best to take action earlier rather than later if you see signs it isn't going to work for you. Real Deal or Faux Beau will help you make the decision.

Dating around does not mean sleeping around Playing the field is frowned on in some circles. There are definitely appropriate and inappropriate ways to date several men simultaneously. And unlike common opinion, it does not mean you are a skank In fact, multidating can be a sound strategy for finding someone with whom you want to be exclusive. Since so many first dates are also last dates, it makes sense to have several men in the pipeline at the same time. You can have several initial coffee dates set up in one weekend. Which doesn't mean you should be cavalier about each of those men. You need to treat them with respect and courtesy. Some of them will want to remain friends and may become treasures in your life. But how do you keep track of several men's conversations? That's what your Date-A-Base is for You don't want to ask about a man's mother when he told you she died Confusing two men's information is embarrassing. Learn to multidate with aplomb. Sample topics: - "Pimpin'" - Dating multiple men - Multi-dating pros and cons - Your Date-A-Base - tracking multiple suitors - "Hot bunking" your beaus - Are you a "Let's Make a Deal" type of dater? - Assume there are other women - Dating's revolving door - How long do you hedge your bet? - Beware of multi-tasking when multidating - Back-burner beaus - The boyfriend phone Multidating Responsibly focuses on how to date around responsibly and with integrity without leading men on. If you do it with honesty, you can date several men at once until you're both ready to focus only on each other. Start learning how now

Do you get steamed discussing relationship challenges with your beau? Nearly all relationships have some ups and downs. Part of getting to know a man is seeing how he works through relationship misunderstandings. What should you look for when you have a disagreement? How can you determine if he's self-absorbed vs. flexible, loving and unselfish? What can you learn from a fight? Everyone has hot buttons. Your sweetie may trigger feelings left over from your past relationship: abandonment, being taken for granted, unrealistic expectations, unpleasant demands are common complaints. But just because your ex didn't lift a finger to help with dinner doesn't mean that your current man is lazy when he prefers to do dishes instead of chopping. Learn how to talk through differences to see if you've uncovered a deal breaker, or if it is just matter of preferences. Sample topics: - When your guy vexes you, ask what your highest self would do - The first fight - You want boo; he wants boo-ty - Where's the line between getting your needs met and being selfish? - Expressing your upset with your guy - Is his toothbrush in your cabinet too soon? - Do you love how he loves you? - Is he collecting data on how to make you happy? - Be careful of being smitten - Exclusivity: How and when to broach it - The 60-day relationship review Ironing Out Dating Wrinkles focuses on how to work through the inevitable hiccups when you are getting to know each other. If you can both deal with challenges maturely and graciously, the bond deepens and you find yourself smitten.

Get naked with a new man? Oh, my Many midlife women say they're interested in having a special man in their life, but they're not sure about sex. They may not have been sexual with anyone other than their husband. And it might have been decades since they've been intimate with anyone - and it's a tad scary to think about getting naked with a new man at this stage of life. After child bearing and perhaps some extra pounds - not to mention gravity - we don't feel we look our best unclothed. How long would a man tolerate making love in a pitch-dark room - while wearing a blindfold? How do you know when you're ready? How do you teach a new man what you want? What if he wants you to do something that's not comfortable for you? Sample topics: - Sleepover do's and don'ts - Does he want in your life - or just in your bedroom? - Getting naked with him the first time - An excuse to seduce or how important is bedroom bliss? - What to ask yourself before getting naked with him - Are you and your guy on the same sexual time line? - Sharing your sexual owner's manual with him - What women need from a man before having sex - Why too-soon midlife sex is like non-fat food - How dating sex is like waffles - Too-soon seduction: "I'm special, but not THAT special" From Fear to Frolic focuses on what you need to know before getting physically intimate with a man you're dating. This is nerve-wracking to many midlife women. This book will prepare you to know when you're ready and let go of some of the fears and embrace intimacy again.