Haim Omer

Mit "Wachsame Sorge" präsentiert Haim Omer die nächste Stufe seines Konzepts fÃ"r einen entwicklungsförderlichen Umgang von Eltern mit ihren Kindern. Ausgehend von den Grundsätzen der "elterlichen Präsenz", dem Modell der "Neuen Autorität" sowie der bindungsrelevanten Ankerfunktion geht es in diesem Buch um die grundlegende elterliche Haltung, auf der eine aktive und respektvolle Teilhabe am Leben ihres Kindes basiert. "Wachsame Sorge" wird in der Umsetzung als ein abgestuftes Vorgehen verstanden, das von "offener" Ã"ber "fokussierte Aufmerksamkeit" mit Blick auf das Alltagsleben bis hin zu MaÃ?nahmen reicht, die den Handlungsspielraum des (meist) Jugendlichen unmissverständlich begrenzen. In den allermeisten Fällen ist es aus Elternsicht nicht notwendig, in diesem Sinne alle Register zu ziehen. Anhand einer Vielzahl instruktiver Beispiele zu verschiedensten Problemkonstellationen, wie dem Umgang mit Geld, dem Konsum von Suchtmitteln, Internetgebrauch und Autofahren, wird deutlich, welche Handlungsoptionen Eltern haben, um ihre eigene Position zu festigen â ganz und gar zum Wohl ihres Kindes auf dessen Weg zu mehr SelbstfÃ"rsorge.

When children develop an anxiety disorder, the best solution is to provide ongoing help within the familial context. How that can best be implemented may be seen in this articulate and impressive book.Anxiety disorders in children can disturb family life considerably. Haim Omer's concept of a "new authority" offers a helpful approach to coping according to the motto "support but don't shield." The central idea is one of parents as anchors for their children, i.e., besides protection and security they provide facilitative support for their offspring. A wealth of instructive case examples - from the infant to the adult still living with the parents, from separation anxiety to OCD - provide the practitioner with all the necessary tools.

"Lebowitz and Omer have taken the latest and most relevant scientific research and synthesized it into an essential read for caregivers of anxious children. Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety: A Guide for Caregivers provides an 'inside look' at the nuts and bolts of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for childhood anxiety?the treatment of choice among leading researchers and experts. The book is filled with analogies, examples, and practical advice that professionals and parents will refer back to over and over again." ?Candice A. Alfano, PhD; Director, Sleep and Anxiety Center for Kids (SACK) Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Houston PRACTICAL REAL-LIFE SOLUTIONS FOR CHILDREN LIVING WITH ANXIETY FOCUSING ON THE SPECIAL ROLE OF THE CAREGIVER IN ACHIEVING SUCCESSFUL TREATMENT Focusing on the treatment of childhood anxiety, both in one-on-one therapist to child treatment and within the family, Treating Childhood and Adolescent Anxiety: A Guide for Caregivers adopts an integrated approach presenting novel strategies to help mental health professionals and families create change and momentum in otherwise stagnant situations. This empowering guide offers practical, evidence-based, and theory-driven strategies for helping children to overcome anxiety, even if they resist treatment. Uniquely providing concrete advice for both the therapeutic and home environment, this insightful book covers: What to do when anxiety takes over the familySchool phobia and school refusalWorking with highly dependent young adultsParental support and protectionCreating and maintaining family boundariesA walk-through of The Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) ProgramCognitive, behavioral, physiological, and emotion-based tools for treating anxietyMedication for childhood anxiety

Haim Omer builds on his previous work to present a model of authority for parents, teachers and community workers that is suitable for today's free and pluralistic societies. This new authority contrasts with traditional authority in that it emphasizes self-control and persistence over control of the child, a network of support over a strict hierarchy, taking mutual responsibility for escalations over holding the child solely responsible, patience over threats, non-violent resistance over physical force, and transparency over secrecy. In addition to a thorough discussion of the underlying theory, The New Authority presents a practical program for families, schools and communities. Dr Omer provides specific instructions to combat violence and risky behavior at home and in school, increase parent and teacher interest and support, and implement interventions that increase safety, improve atmosphere and generate community cohesiveness.

Throughout human history, the relationships of individuals and groups have been disrupted by what the authors sum up as "demonization," the attribution of basic destructive qualities to the other or to forces within the self. Demonization results in constant suspicion and blame, a systematic disregard of positive events, pressure to eradicate the putative negative persons or forces, and a growing readiness to engage in escalating conflict. Richly illustrated with 24 case stories, this book explores the psychological processes involved in demonization and their implications for the effort to effect change in relationships, psychotherapy, and beyond the office or clinic in the daily lives of families, organizations, and societies.Recent popular psychology--the authors argue--has tended to encourage demonization. An appropriate alternative to this view is known as the "tragic view": Suffering is inevitable in life; negative outcomes are a result of a confluence of factors over which one has only a very limited control; there is no possibility of reading into the hidden "demonic" layers of the other's mind; the other's actions, like our own, are multiply motivated; escalation is a tragic development rather than the result of an evil "master plan"; and finally, skills for promoting acceptance and reducing escalation are necessary for diminishing interpersonal suffering. The authors describe and illustrate a series of these skills both for psychotherapy and for personal use. Finally, they lay out an approach to consolation and acceptance, the neglect of which they attribute to the dominance of demonic views.The Psychology of Demonization: Promoting Acceptance and Reducing Conflict will be appreciated by all those professionally and personally concerned with the state of relationships.

Throughout human history, the relationships of individuals and groups have been disrupted by what the authors sum up as "demonization," the attribution of basic destructive qualities to the other or to forces within the self. Demonization results in constant suspicion and blame, a systematic disregard of positive events, pressure to eradicate the putative negative persons or forces, and a growing readiness to engage in escalating conflict. Richly illustrated with 24 case stories, this book explores the psychological processes involved in demonization and their implications for the effort to effect change in relationships, psychotherapy, and beyond the office or clinic in the daily lives of families, organizations, and societies.Recent popular psychology--the authors argue--has tended to encourage demonization. An appropriate alternative to this view is known as the "tragic view": Suffering is inevitable in life; negative outcomes are a result of a confluence of factors over which one has only a very limited control; there is no possibility of reading into the hidden "demonic" layers of the other's mind; the other's actions, like our own, are multiply motivated; escalation is a tragic development rather than the result of an evil "master plan"; and finally, skills for promoting acceptance and reducing escalation are necessary for diminishing interpersonal suffering. The authors describe and illustrate a series of these skills both for psychotherapy and for personal use. Finally, they lay out an approach to consolation and acceptance, the neglect of which they attribute to the dominance of demonic views.The Psychology of Demonization: Promoting Acceptance and Reducing Conflict will be appreciated by all those professionally and personally concerned with the state of relationships.

This book begins with an examination of Gandhi’s ‘nonviolent’ resistance and its application to the family context. A model of escalation processes between parents and children is presented, as well as ways for overcoming escalation. The book includes a step-by-step instruction manual for parents. Special topics include: dealing with violence against siblings; dealing with children who take control of the house; building alliances between parents and teachers, and, community uses of the approach.

Patients of psychotherapy often have pre-developed, powerful stories about themselves when they come for treatment, and these are usually characterized by bleak self-portrayals, inexorable plots, narrow themes, and demoralizing meanings. This book aims to help the psychotherapist in creating a new story for the client that is so close to their own experience that they may view it as their own story. However this story must be different enough from the previous one so as to allow for new meanings and options to be perceived. The aim is that once the client is freed from his original story he can begin to be freed from his problem altogether. Teaching the therapeutic principles of narrative reconstruction, this book shows how to improve in the following: characterizing, constructing plot, outlining and developing themes, and conveying meanings.

This book describes a pluralistic model of therapeutic impasse and its resolution through the carefully planned use of critical interventions--one-shot events that give a new direction to a therapy or a patient's life.