Mitch Vandell

JUST GIVE UP on projecting fantasies about yourself and pretending to live up to them. Reject setting goals and making judgments about how good you are, and instead just do what you want. The only ones even taking notice are those less successful than you, are they really who you are looking to impress? Daring to fail is the new winning - doing what you want without fear of how you think people will judge you - even if that means getting a stripper in Brazil pregnant. Happiness can only come from acceptance. Stop resisting. Just Give Up and be a WINNER ABOUT THE AUTHOR Having reached middle-age with absolutely nothing to show for it, everything he has ever attempted has been a flop. Yet, the internationally failed author and musician describes his life as one long and constant climax. This inspired him to become a motivational speaker to teach the philosophies from his failed self-help book about achieving career success. Vandell quickly discovered that sharing his countless mega-flops and fiascos was what motivated participants the most. The unintended result was people reevaluating their relationship with failure and achieving more by no longer being held back from giving their best, doing what they want. Not focusing on how you think people see you, frees you to do what you like and find out who you are.

Could your life be better? Yes Not due to a lack of effort on your part but because you are too nice and allow problematic people into your life. The ONLY thing that matters is YOU and YOUR Opinions "It's Not You (It's Them): A Guide to Your Perfect Bubble," advocates self-segregating into bubbles for optimal life satisfaction. In a radical departure from traditional approaches for individuals who want to improve their life by advising people to change themselves to meet the expectations of others, the message is simple - don't allow problematic and irritating people into their lives. "Human intolerants are normal and healthy people that simply have higher standards and expectations," said Vandell. "It's similar to how listening to bad music doesn't help you appreciate music more. It is the same with people - to love them you have to avoid most of them." The book is written in short, bite-sized chapters designed to console and let people know they're not alone. Being irritated by annoying people isn't due to any unfounded prejudice or ill-will. It's simply a rational reaction that's been triggered within them. "My hope is that this book will pave the way to make it acceptable in society to openly come out as "human intolerant" and for people to be allowed to self-segregate from those that sabotage their quality of life," said Vandell. While it's impossible to avoid all problems and irritations, the author notes that avoiding annoying people and situations can be significantly reduced with conscious, deliberate and disciplined planning to create a personal bubble of calm. People are programmed from the cradle to be "nice" to others, but each person's identity and quality of life is shaped by who and what they allow into their lives. Dealing with difficult people is exhausting, frustrating and counterproductive. Leading researchers and experts in disciplines ranging from psychology and social anthropology to political science agree that the idea of "non-problematic people" avoiding "problematic people" is simple yet powerful and has the potential for creating world peace. "It's Not You (It's Them): A Guide to Your Perfect Bubble" (ISBN 1548385026) explains to readers how to survive among "problematic people" and create a shield to improve their overall quality of life. LIE: Happiness is about how you react to what happens to you. TRUTH: Quality of life depends on who and what you can shield yourself from. REALITY: Problems are mostly the consequence of allowing problematic people into your life. WELCOME TO THE BUBBLE: Choose a social environment free from irritation and frustration - far from intolerable people and situations. URGENT CALL TO ACTION 1. Protect your social environment from intrusions. 2. Inoculate yourself from the need to seek approval. 3. Don't measure yourself and your achievements against others. WARNING: The humor in this book does not make the message any less valid.

When Mitch finds himself unceremoniously dumped by his fianc e, he doesn't get too worked up about it. Instead, he moves to London in search of a career and soon finds himself reveling in the anonymity of being a carefree young man in one of the world's most exciting cities. As he climbs the corporate ladder with an ease that makes him the target of his less fortunate co-workers, Mitch embarks on a series of inappropriate affairs, gets entangled with a series of roommates including an elderly (and unpredictably violent) woman he finds himself serving as the unwilling companion to. His intimate confessions and musings are simultaneously delightful and embarrassing to the reader, as this average college graduate finds himself irresistibly drawn to extreme characters, wild situations, and bad decisions. In "Wanton Times," a satirical and witty take on "Catcher in the Rye," you'll find the tale of a contemporary everyman who doggedly refuses to grow up. He may be apathetic, unprincipled, and living with complete disregard for consequences-but he's entirely entertaining.