Pamela Thomas

Life can be challenging trying to find purpose through your pressures and pain. This memoir was lovingly written to help you understand how my pain orchestrated the discovery of my purpose My motivation is not simply for people to read my book but to understand, grow and have a determination to overcome. This aspiration is paramount in the sharing of my story with you. Conception is a gift many people experience. Those of us who do not experience the gift must find a way to accept and move on. Admittedly, there will be dark times, but my prayer is that you will allow me to be your Beacon of light to usher you to your open blessings. My ministry is to the lost, hurting and those that lack guidance. My undying Passion is to lead people by example and help them gain clarity in their expectations. Through determination and unwavering faith this goal is achievable. I am inclined to support, guide, and serve the needs of others. I have committed myself to walking people through the process.Yes, I DO CARE that you will make it THROUGH

A moving, elegantly written, and exhaustively researched account of what it means for a girl to lose a father to death or divorce--with advice for fatherless daughters on how to cope. "People who lose their parents early in life are like fellow war veterans. As soon as they discover that they are talking to someone else who has lost a parent, they know they are speaking the same language without uttering a word." Pamela Thomas gives voice to this unspoken pain in Fatherless Daughters. Still haunted by her own father's death when she was ten, Thomas decided to explore its effects. Though her journey began as a personal one, she soon felt the need to hear from other women and ended up interviewing more than one hundred fatherless women. They ranged in age from nineteen to ninety-four; they came from all areas of the country as well as Europe and Asia; some had lost their fathers to death, others to divorce or abandonment. Each account was unique, but the impact of a father's loss was profound in every woman's life. Thomas begins by defining what it means to be a father in our world. She discusses the initial shock of his loss, exploring the aspects that color how a young girl experiences it: her age at the time of her father's death or abandonment, her mother's behavior and attitudes, her place in the family vis- -vis siblings, and the influence of a stepfather or father-surrogates. Thomas shows how a father's early death or abandonment affects a woman's emotional health and self-esteem, her body image, her sexual experiences, her marriage, her family life, and her career. Perhaps most important, Thomas offers compassionate advice for coming to terms with father loss, even late in life, from actively mourning, to healing, to starting fresh.