Thomas Phelan

The only book that gives you an actionable plan to reduce the emotional labor and mental load that comes with raising a busy family while trying to live your own life--from a clinical psychologist and bestselling authorAre you a mom who does it all? This is the book for you.It's impossible to deny--most moms continue to do way more household work and childcare than most dads. Working full time, raising kids, cooking dinner, making sure every appointment and activity is lined up and that everyone gets there on time... no wonder you're tired But despite all the books and articles lamenting the crushing mental load and emotional labor women bear for their families, no one has come up with a plan to actually make things change. Until now.The Best Moms Don't Do it All is the first book that not only acknowledges the fact that moms are burning out, but shows you how to transfer responsibility for daily tasks from yourself to your partner and also (gasp ) your kids. Clinical psychologist and child discipline expert Thomas W. Phelan, PhD explains how we got into this mess in the first place, and how we can get out of it through a calm, systematic approach to teaching our families how to take initiative and contribute in meaningful ways. Dr. Phelan walks you through real-life situations and shows you how to step back from the things that are dragging you down. For example: Your Maternal Identity--the things you tell yourself you have to do in order to be a "good" momThe oppressive trap of chronic supervisionOur society's curious underestimation of children's capabilitiesHow to eliminate primary childcare with tweens and teensHow to manage resistant or traditionalist dadsRealistic and simple enough to implement in your home right away, The Best Moms Don't Do it All provides a roadmap for you to take your life back and proves that the happiest families share the work and the fun equally.*Previously published as The Manager Mom Epidemic*

Are you a mom who does it all? This is the book for you.It's impossible to deny—most moms continue to do way more household work and childcare than most dads. Working full time, raising kids, cooking dinner, making sure every appointment and activity is lined up and that everyone gets there on time… no wonder you're tired! But despite all the books and articles lamenting the crushing mental load and emotional labor women bear for their families, no one has come up with a plan to actually make things change. Until now.The Manager Mom Epidemic is the first book that not only acknowledges the fact that moms are burning out, but shows you how to transfer responsibility for daily tasks from yourself to your partner and also (gasp!) your kids. Clinical psychologist and child discipline expert Thomas W. Phelan, PhD explains how we got into this mess in the first place, and how we can get out of it through a calm, systematic approach to teaching our families how to take initiative and contribute in meaningful ways. Dr. Phelan walks you through real-life situations and shows you how to step back from the things that are dragging you down. For example: Your Maternal Identity—the things you tell yourself you have to do in order to be a "good" mom The oppressive trap of chronic supervision Our society's curious underestimation of children's capabilities How to eliminate primary childcare with tweens and teens How to manager resistant or traditionalist dadsRealistic and simple enough to implement in your home right away, The Manager Mom Epidemic provides a roadmap for you to take your life back and proves that the happiest families share the work and the fun equally.

The #1 child discipline book, now available in Spanish " Las ideas de este libro funcionan Realmente es como magia, siento que recuper el mando."La segunda edici n del exitoso 1-2-3 Magia que ha vendido 1.8 millones de copias internacionalmente en m s de 20 idiomas por el aclamado experto Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. ha compilado dos d cadas de estudio y experiencia en un f cil de usar programa dise ado para padres haciendo esfuerzo para conectar con sus hijos mas profundamente para ayudarlos a crecer y desarrollarse en ni os, adolescentes y adultos saludables y capaces. Dr. Phelan explica la complicada tarea de crianza en tres pasos sencillos: Ayudando a sus ni os a aprender como controlar sus emociones y abstener del mal comportamiento, incluyendo: c mo manejar la rivalidad entre hermanos, berrinches, pucheros y mentiras.Fomentando el buen comportamiento y proveyendo observaciones positivas.Fortaleciendo la relaci n con tus hijos para resforzar el v nclulo natural entre padres-hijos.Usted encontrara instrumentos que podr usar en cualquier situaci n, adem s, aprender de experiencias reales de otros padres que han navegado retos comunes de crianza como reluctancia para hacer tareas, faltas de respeto, problemas a la hora de dormir o qued ndose dormidos a trav s de la noche. Por a os, millones de padres alrededor del mundo han usado el premiado programa 1-2-3 Magia para ayudar a que sus hijos desarrollen inteligencia emocional, criar familias m s saludables y felices, y devolverle la alegr a a la familia.

Get the most out of the 1-2-3 Magic program with this essential companion to 1-2-3 Parenting with HeartThrough the 1-2-3 Magic program, Dr. Thomas W. Phelan and pastor Chris Webb teach parents to take charge while refraining from any harsh discipline or yelling, leading to better behaved children, happier parents, and a more peaceful home environment. In the 1-2-3 Workbook for Parenting with Heart, the program’s simple steps are explained in greater detail, and each workbook chapter contains a summary, questions about the content, case studies, troubleshooting exercises, and wrap-up bullets.With more than 1.8 million copies sold, 1-2-3 Magic has helped millions of parents, teachers, and caregivers solve their child discipline problems. The workbook provides extra content and resources for parents looking to engage more deeply with the Christian-focused 1-2-3 Magic program. Updated packaging and content along with a refreshed internal design make this parenting classic even more relatable to today’s parenting community.Reader reviews for 1-2-3 Workbook for Parenting with Heart:“This program really works... if you keep it up. The workbook was really helpful to me while I was reading the book.”“I ordered the book that goes with this workbook, and the two together are very helpful. I’m learning to be a better mom/grandma.”“Excellent book for parents to raise their children with loving discipline.”

Based on the bestselling parenting book 1-2-3 Magic, and adapted especially for kids!"1-2-3 Magic made parenting fun again.""I highly recommend this book to any parent who is spending more time yelling at or nagging their children than smiling at and laughing with them.""All I have to say is that the ideas in this book really WORK! It really is like magic!""It's such a relief to not feel like I'm constantly yelling at someone! If you want to see a fast improvement in your child's behavior, check out 1-2-3 Magic."1-2-3 Magic is the simplest, most effective parenting program for raising happy, well-behaved children, and now it's even easier to get your kids excited about their role in your family! Through engaging illustrations and a storybook format, 1-2-3 Magic for Kids lays out the program in a way that's relatable for kids of all ages. From counting to time-outs and everything in between, 1-2-3 Magic for Kids explains:• Why it's important for them to behave • How parents use 1-2-3 Magic to make sure everyone in the family is doing what they're supposed to do • Why their family will be happier and have more time for fun activities once they start using 1-2-3 MagicFeaturing full-color illustrations, puzzles, and games, 1-2-3 Magic for Kids is the perfect companion to 1-2-3 Magic. Whether you are just starting to use the program or have been finding success with it for years, Dr. Thomas W. Phelan's kid-friendly adaptation will help you and your kids work together to have more fun and build a stronger family.

From the Author of Bestselling Parenting Series 1-2-3 Magic!For the estimated 20 million Americans with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder comes the third edition of All About ADHD by Dr. Thomas W. Phelan, an internationally renowned expert and lecturer on child discipline and ADHD. Completely updated with the latest research and treatment information, All About ADHD is a comprehensive guide to ADHD's symptoms, diagnosis, and treatment in children and adults, including information such as: The basic symptoms of ADHD and their effects on school, work, home, and personal relationships The differences in ADHD between boys and girls Counseling, school interventions, behavior management, and social skills training Research-based tips and techniques from an expert authorWritten in easy-to-understand language and with a positive, treatment-focused approach, All About ADHD is a must-have resource for parents, teachers, physicians, and mental health professionals.

Help your teens grow into the very best versions of themselves!From rule-breaking and risk-taking to defensive communication and disrespect, parenting a teenager can feel like modern warfare--but it doesn't have to be that way. In 1-2-3 Magic Teen, internationally renowned parenting expert Thomas W. Phelan explains how to better understand your teenager, which problems are not worth fighting over, and why your child's behavior likely matches the definition of a normal adolescent! With helpful, straightforward advice backed up by research and parent-tested strategies, 1-2-3 Magic Teen will help you establish a calmer, more respectful home and family life and show you how to guide your teenager into healthy, functional young adulthood.• Learn the Language: Communicate with open and engaging language, and listen to your teenager the right way.• Establish Expectations: Learn how to set limits while still encouraging independent decision-making and helping your child develop their emotional intelligence.• Stay in Touch: Allow your teen to open up to you in more meaningful and inclusive ways through four simple connection building strategies.'• Take Care of Yourself: Take time to maintain your own emotional well-being to avoid allowing your own anxieties and stresses to influence your childrenYou'll also find tools and advice tailored for the challenges of a teen lifestyle, including:• Forgetting to do chores• Absence in family outings• Drop in grades• Missed curfews• Parties and drinking• Work responsibilitiesThe author of the million-copy parenting bestseller 1-2-3 Magic applies his time-tested, trusted advice in this straightforward, encouraging guide that walks parents through the ups and downs of teen life, allowing them to help their kids gain confidence and push toward independence.

"Everywhere you go, you keep overhearing other moms say to their misbehaving children, 'That's one. That's two. That's three.' And then you watch in disbelief as their kid actually stops!"-PopSugar MomsAre you the parent of a strong-willed child? Is bedtime a nightly battle? Are you looking to get your kids to behave without yelling? Whether you have a toddler, preschooler, or school-aged child, this gentle parenting book can help you create a calm, happy home."Phelan's method has a proven track record of ending the negotiations and getting kids back on track...1-2-3 {Magic} is the gold standard of child discipline for good reason."-Library Journal STARREDSince kids don't come with a manual, 1-2-3 Magic is the next best thing. Dr. Thomas Phelan has developed the #1 selling child discipline book in the country-a quick, simple, and scientifically proven way to parent that actually works!Using his signature counting method, Dr. Phelan helps parents to quickly, calmly, and effectively stop behaviors like tantrums and meltdowns, whining and pouting, talking back, sibling rivalry and more in toddlers, preschoolers, and middle schoolers.He guides parents through drama-free discipline methods that will help with:Getting kids to listenDealing with difficult/spirited childrenHow to discipline a toddlerWhat to do about sibling rivalryNo drama when you disciplineDr. Phelan also covers how you can easily establish positive routines with children ages 2 - 12 around:BedtimeDinnertimeHomeworkGetting up and out in the morningand tips for strengthening your relationship with your kidsMillions of parents from all over the world have used the award-winning 1-2-3 Magic to raise happier families and put the fun back into parenting, combining love and logic to make you a more peaceful parent with a happy kid."1-2-3 Magic simplifies everything I've read in other books, which makes it very easy to follow. Our home has become a much more positive place."-Real parent"I was desperate for a change in my family dynamics. This book was the answer!"-Real parent1-2-3 Magic is one of Healthline's Best Parenting Books of 2017, a 2016 Mom's Choice Award Winner, a 2016 National Parenting Product Award Winner and a 2016 Family Choice Award Winner.

Advice on tantrums from the author of the bestselling parenting book 1-2-3 MagicTemper tantrums may be the most upsetting behavioral problem many parents face from their children. Tantrums! arms confused and frustrated parents with simple, easy-to-follow directions on how to best manage the problem and guide kids appropriately. Readers will learn:• The three main causes of temper tantrums• The true power of the "10-Second Rule"• The anatomy of a typical tantrum• The chief problems with attempting to reason with or distract a childTantrums details an effortless four-step process for marshaling tantrums, as well as guidance on how to handle tantrums in public places, allowing parents to move beyond their fears of tantrums and regain control of their own homes.

We have a tendency today to over-parent, micro-manage, and under-appreciate our adolescents. Dr. John Duffy's The Available Parent is a revolutionary approach to taking care of teens and tweens. Teenagers are often left feeling unheard and misunderstood, and parents are left feeling bewildered by the changes in their child at adolescence and their sudden lack of effectiveness as parents. The parent has become unavailable, the teen responds in kind, and a negative, often destructive cycle of communication begins. The available parent of a teenager is open to discussion, offering advice and solutions, but not insisting on them. He allows his child to make some mistakes, setting limits, primarily where health and safety are concerned. He never lectures -- he is available but not controlling. He is neither cruel nor dismissive, ever. The available parent is fun and funny, and can bring levity to the most stressful situation. All of that is to say, there are no conditions to his availability -- it is absolute.

Addressing the task of child discipline with humor and practicality, this time-tested program provides easy-to-follow steps for disciplining children ages two through 12 without yelling, arguing, or spanking. Parents learn to deal with the six kinds of testing and manipulation, and they discover the 10 steps for building self-esteem in children. This award-winning guide also teaches parents how to handle the disrespectful outbursts of children with reason, patience, and compassion. Tratando la disciplina con humor y practico, este programa bien probada presenta pasos sencillos para disciplinar a los ninos de dos a 12 anos sin discutir, gritar, y azotar. Los padres aprenden como confrontar los seis tipos de manipulacion y pruebas y descubren los 10 pasos para estimular la autoestima de sus hijos. Este libro premiado guia a los padres como responder al comportamiento malo con razon, paciencia, y compasion.